It’s the month of Love! And, at The Confidence Institute, we want to talk about loving your favourite person (you).
Self-love is a popular term today that gets tossed around in normal conversation. “You have to love yourself more.” “Why don’t you love yourself?” “If you only loved yourself, this wouldn’t have happened to you.” “You can’t love another person until you love yourself first.” These are just a few of the self-love directives that we give or get to suggest a way to living with purpose and self love.
Self-love is important to living on purpose! It influences who you pick to journey with in life, the image you project to others, and how you cope with the problems in your life. It is so important to your welfare that I want you to know how to bring more of it into your life.
Self-love is a state of appreciation for oneself that grows from actions that support our physical, psychological and spiritual growth. Self-love is dynamic; it grows by actions that mature us. When we act in ways that expand self-love in us, we begin to accept much better our weaknesses as well as our strengths, have less need to explain away our short-comings, have compassion for ourselves as human beings struggling to find personal meaning, are more centered in our life purpose and values, and expect living fulfillment through our own efforts.
Here are 3 important steps in my Seven-Step Prescription for Self-Love.
- Become mindful. People who have more self-love tend to know what they think, feel and want. They are mindful of who they are and act on this knowledge, rather than on what others want for them.
- Act on what you need rather than what you want. You love yourself when you can turn away from something that feels good and exciting to what you need to stay strong, centered, and moving forward in your life, instead. By staying focused on what you need, you turn away from automatic behavior patterns that get you into trouble, keep you stuck in the past, and lessen self-love.
- Practice good self-care. You will love yourself more, when you take better care of your basic needs. People high in self-love nourish themselves daily through healthy activities, like sound nutrition, exercise, proper sleep, intimacy and healthy social interactions.
I hope that these 3 basic tips help you find more self love in the month of Love. It’s all about action!! so, start to change the way you think and act to find more self love.
Good luck! And, if you’re still needing more help to develop self love and build strong, healthy and loving connections, please feel free to contact me for a coaching session.